The Story of a Molested Teenage Girl (short story)
After a tiring day, just as I was about to retire to bed. My daughter who just celebrated her thirteenth birthday earlier that day knocked on my door, I felt so reluctant to open for her because I already knew what she came for. I made a promise to her when she celebrated her twelfth birthday the previous year. I promised to tell her about my teen years when she clocked thirteen. I can’t believe she remembered that, she has come for that and I know my daughter won’t let me rest if I ignore her, so without any further delay, I managed to opt out of bed and made it to the door to open it.
Mom! She called out to me, I answered her call. First she thanked me for throwing a big birthday party for her and promised to always be a good girl then I kissed her on her fore head. There was silence in the room after that but she finally broke the silence after five minute saying “mom have you forgotten”? I acted like I didn’t have a clue on what she was trying to say. I replied with “forgetten what eyinju mi”? meaning the apple of my eyes, as I love to call her that. She protested with her annoyance saying “mom you promised to tell me about your teen years when I clock thirteen, I can’t believe you can’t remember a promise you made just a year ago.
Then it was done on me that I had no choice than to tell her after trying to buy more time to tell her the story the next day but all efforts prooves abortive.
Eyinju, it all started when I was five years old after the demise of my dad. My mom had to remarry the monster I called my step-father since she only gave birth to me and she was still young. ( I sighed).
As I was about to continue, I paused thinking was I actually doing the right thing by telling this story to my daughter but something pushed me to continue. Eyinju! after my mom remarried, I spent most night with my step dad since my mom was always away at work. I didn’t have a better understanding of things happening with me then since I was still very young to understand things like that. My step dad would always come to my room at night molesting me, it started with him always kissing and always putting his hands into my private parts. As an innocent child I don’t understand what he was doing to me, I just remain motionless and helpless.
I remember I tried telling my mom about this but she never had the time to listen to me since she is always busy with her work. This continued every night my mom is away at work, I despise the night so much, I always cursed God for creating the night. I became traumatised, I was so scared of the night, I always wished that the day never end.
As I was about to continue, the wall clock alarm rang, Holy crap it was 12 a.m in the morning. Eyinju you have to go to bed now, don’t forget it’s Monday tomorrow and you have to be in school. Without protesting, my daughter stood up and stormed out to her room biding me good night as she leaves.
The next morning, I was very tired to get off from bed and it took me about thirty minutes before I could get myself together. I rushed to the kitchen to prepare my daughter’s breakfast while I checked my schedule for the day. Thankfully, I have nothing important aside taking my baby to the school and picking her up in the afternoon.
Just as I was about to call out to my daughter to meet me in the car, she hugged me from behind saying good morning mom as she does that. Hurry up young lady you are late already.
We headed to the door, then to the car in few minutes we arrived at her school. I waved her goodbye as I watch her join her friends. I took a U- turn and head back home.
When I got home, I remembered I hadn’t spoken to my husband in twelve hours, I picked up my phone and dialled his number. After exchanging pleasantries, the first question he asked me was “have you started telling her the story you promised to”? My reply was that I can’t believe you are also waiting for this day to come, well I started last night but couldn’t go farther though I promised to continue with her when she returns from school. After having few more conversation I ended up the call. Then sets to do the house chores.
First I had to sweep the entire house, dust all the furnitures, wash the dishes before doing the laundry. When I looked at the time it was already 2 p.m Oh! Guess I would have to branch the eatery to get our launch when I pick up my girl from school. Then I took a nap for thirty minutes.
After waking up, I quickly ran my shower and put on some light cloth because of the hot weather. In few minutes I arrived at my daughter’s school, I met her waiting for me at the gate. She hopped into the vehicle then we started our journey back home.
Before we got home, we branched to an eatery where we had our launch. By the time we got back home its late already. I quickly helped her with her school work before settling down to continue with my story from where I stopped last night.
Yea! Shall we? I asked my daughter with a smile on my face then she replied with “yes we can ” smiling back at me revealing her cute dimples.
As I was saying yesterday, I never got the chance to tell my mom all what I was passing through whenever she is away from home because she is just too busy with her work, a career woman to the core. So, her constant absence from home gave my monster step father the room to molest me more. He continued with the kissing and putting his fingers into my vagina mostly three times in a week until I became a young teenager at the age of thirteen when the worst started happening to me.
At thirteen, I would say have become a fully grown up woman since I appeared more bigger than my age.
On the night of my thirteenth birthday, I’ve been the only one at home throughout the day. So I decided to take a shower before going to bed. As I was taking my bath in the bathroom, I heard my step father’s voice who just returned and from his utterances I knew he was drunk. He called my name Tinuke, i answered from the bathroom. I stepped out from the bathroom not quite long naked with the mindset that I locked the door to my room. Just as I was about to put on my night wear, he opened the door and before I could put on my cloth he was already on me on my bed, (in a sober voice) I tried to fight back but he overpowers me until I gave up with the fight, he raped, I cried, I screamed but no one could here my voice. I remembered he lasted for thirty minutes. When he was done with me, I guess his eyes were opened, though he apologised but what can his apology do after ruining my life? My step father raped me and snatched my flower from him.
Well! It’s my fate, I accepted his apology thinking he won’t try it again just as he promised but I was wrong.
He keep on coming and coming whenever my mom is not at home. I remembered him giving me some pills back then but I don’t know the work of the pills just that I never get pregnant.
When I couldn’t take this any longer, I told my mom I would like to go to the boarding house leaving this cage I called home where no one could hear my voice but she turned me down that she can’t waste her money since I have just one year to finish from high school. This gives the monster more time to continue his fiendish escapade. I was trapped in my step father’s cage for a very long time waiting for my freedom, I tried Commiting suicide on different occasions but something always stopped me from doing so, at times my late father’s voice, his words rings in my ear then I would remember him telling me when I was four that “Tinuke you have a dream to live for” guess I have a dream and a story to tell and that’s why am still alive today.
I was about to continue when my daughter told me that we should call it a day saying she is feeling sleepy. I kissed her goodnight as she leaves to her room.
When she left, I remembered I had to be in a girls high school the following day giving the girls lecture about sex. Ó quickly boot my laptop and search for related articles for my presentation. I studied the article before going to bed, though it wasn’t easy since all I do is nodding my head against the table.
The following day after dropping my daughter at her school, I drove to the Queens Girls High School where I am to deliver my speech. Have been an advocate for child abuse when I got my admission to the University because I wouldn’t want a girl child to experience what I experienced as a girl child.
I am to talk to the girls on common problems they face as a girl child and how to overcome it, am glad parents were also invited to the program. Since I already made my research online already with the help of Google and that made it easier for me.
I begin by telling them that. like every coin with two sides, this wonderful phase comes with a lot of challenges too. You might find your teenage girl facing plethora of problems. Teenage is a time that is filled with confusion and small matters seem really big. As a parent, you need to extend help to your girl in facing these teenage girl behavioural problems. Below is the list of teenage girls issues, read on to know more.”
After saying this I begin to give them a comprehensive list and solutions to problems faced by teenage girls.
1. APPEARANCE :This probably features as the number one problem on every teenage girl’s problem list. This is the time when her body is constantly changing and she has to cope with it. To top it, she keeps seeing and hearing about these figure-perfect bodies. Media and peer pressure also play havoc.
*Monitor your teenager very closely.
*Discuss how these ‘looks’ are more of fads.
*See to it that your young girl doesn’t adapt unhealthy eating habits.
*Ensure the people she spends time with do not act in an adverse manner.
2. EDUCATION: This is a time when your teenage girl has to constantly prove her mettle by scoring high, doing well in exams and on other educational fronts. This creates immense pressure on your young girl and leads to stress and undue pressure.
*Make your teenage girl understand that she should study well and score good marks, but that grades are no way of judging someone. Low grades do not make anyone less educated or less talented. There is always another test she can prove herself in.
*Encourage her to take up extra-curricular activities that she likes. This will help her unwind while building more focus and concentration power.
3. DATING: Teenage already comes with a lot of problems and challenges. The sudden increased flow of sex hormones inside the body makes it even worse. You might find your girl falling for her first crush and vulnerable to romantic liaisons. A lot of teenage girls experience healthy crushes and early-age love too. However, peer pressure, changing times and the advancement of media has sort of associated sex to such teenage romantic relationships. This makes your teenager girl feel that sex it but natural in romantic relations even at an early age. Also, this is an extremely confusing time for her, in terms of precautions, safe sex and how much involvement is okay and by choice.
*Tell her it is perfectly alright to say no to sex.
*Educate her on the sex front. It is very important for you to pass all relevant information about sex as and when she grows. Be open and discuss sex with her, it is not a taboo.
*Teach her how to be safe and all about precaution too, as you may not always be able to control her relationships.
5. BULLYING: Bullying is one of the another teenage girl issues which bothers them a lot. This starts affecting their personality and behavior. Your teenage girl might also feel depressed and react strangely by keeping to herself.
*Make sure your teenage girl discusses everything with you.
*If you feel she is being bullied, advise her on how to face it and stand up against it.
*Teach her how she can come out of such situations and how you too were bullied sometimes when young. Children should know that they are not the only ones who face such problems. This eases them out a bit.
Teenage makes every relation seem complex. Even the beautiful bond of friendship often meets shaky grounds. This is because as a teenager, your child is developing social skills. Your daughter might love her best friend one moment and might pick an ugly fight the next. This may result in aggression and mood swings.
*Teach your teenage girl that it is alright to fight with friends. But fights don’t make any friend bad.
*It is alright to have problems and difference of opinions. Even her best friend might not always agree with her on something.
*The best way is to discuss these problems and then forget about them.
*Monitor the kind of friends she makes.
*Ensure she is in the right company.
*Teach her that it is okay to apologize when wrong.
6. Self-Esteem: Teenage girls have this habit of comparing themselves, their body and their appearance to other girls of their age. This unconsciously creates a pressure on them. The changes in your teenage girl’s body might make her doubt herself. She might get extremely conscious about everything she does, wears or even talks about. This might adversely affect her self-esteem.
*Make sure she doesn’t idolize models and actresses.
*Patiently explain to her that everybody is different from each other. We all are unique and we all have our own set of positives and negatives.
*Encourage her to indulge in her favourite activities and hone her skills instead.
7. Peer Pressure: Peer pressure forces teenage girls to behave a certain way that gives them a sense of belongingness. By giving into peer pressure they feel one with their peers. This even leads them to take up habits that they otherwise aren’t supposed to or are interested in.
*Explain to your daughter what peer pressure is to help her identify it.
×Tell her that she is unique in her own way and may choose to like a certain band that her peers might not approve of. She can choose to be a certain way without feeling any detachment from her peers.
*Her opinions, views, choices, hobbies, fashion sense and even eating habits make her entirely what she is. She need not give in to any peer pressure just to make her peers feel good.
8. Substance Use:
This is a major problem that most teenagers, girls and boys, face across the world today. In most cases, peer pressure introduces teenage girls to this dangerous habit. Teenage girls retort to substance use to ease their stress, feel secure and assured from within.
*Talk to your young girl about the bad side effects and detrimental effects of substance use.
*Explain how these give temporary good feeling while ruining her system, body, mind and soul from within.
*If she wants to try a hand at drinking, make her do it in your presence. Let her experience everything but only under your supervision and in your presence.
This is the time your teenage girl will enter her menstruation phase for the first time. She might develop a lot of misconceptions and queries too in regard to her menstruation cycle.
*Clear all her doubts first.
*Make her accept the fact that this process is natural. Tell her how every girl goes through this in her life and that it is part of leading a normal life.
*Teach her how to deal with emergency situations. Tell her to always carry an extra pair of underwear and tampons or sanitary napkins in her bag.
*She must also keep few medicines with her always, in case she suffers from headache or bad menstrual cramps.
*Teach her how to track her monthly periods and talk to her about pms-ing too.
10. Depression: Teenage girls can get affected by any random thing. When things don’t go their way, or when they don’t meet the standards that their peers have maintained, they feel pressurized and go into depression. Low grades, break ups, high parental expectations, weight gain, substance use, these are some of the many factors that trigger depression and are the major teen girl issues.
*Look for signs of depression in your teenage girl.
*If you think she is losing interest suddenly in everything she does, talk to her about it.
*See to it that she behaves normally, remains happy and occupied in various activities that she enjoys.
*Excess desire to sleep or total sleep deprivation is also a sign of depression.
* Also look for signs like if she talks suddenly about death, suicide etc. Seek professional help immediately.
I rounded up after sharing a bit from my story and telling the teachers and parents that “One of the best ways to ensure you are aware of what your teenage girl is going through is by keeping an open communication.” I was applauded as I stepped out of the hall. I checked my time, I was ten minutes late to the time I have to pick my daughter from school. Without wasting more time I drove to her school to pick her up then head back home. On getting home I told her to do her assignment and prepare something for dinner that I need to rest before continuing my story where I stopped.
After having some rest, I called my daughter to my room to continue with my story.
I continued. With all this habit of my step father I always pray to God to free me from this cage I was trapped but I kept on receiving this molestation from my step father. On one occasion after a weekly fellowship from the church I attended then, there is this brother James who I decided to tell things to. I didn’t go straight with him, I just told him that I always have this dream of my step father having sex with me every night. I lied to hide my shame before him. He told me that it’s a very bad dream that am going to need a deliverance that we should go to his house since the church has been locked. Without no other choice I followed him to his house for the deliverance. When we were praying, he started caressing my breast with his hand I thought it was part of his deliverance until he pulled me up and started to unbotton my dress then it was dawn on me what he was trying to do with me. He raped covering my mouth with his hand so I won’t be able to scream. When he was done, he apologised saying its the devil’s work that I should keep it a secret between us. I left his room angrily and returned back home. When I got home, I started thinking why all this were happening to me, whether am the only girl child in the world experiencing this. Am not saved at home and I couldn’t find shelter in the church either, I wept bitterly, I cried out my souls to God to please free me from all the mess I was trapped in.
When I was in Ss3 as well I also got the same molestation from my maths teacher in the name of private tutoring.
The story changed when I finally got my admission. All thanks to my first boyfriend. I remembered the day we met in one of our lectures when our lecturer asked us a question, we both turned the hall into a court room because we both struggled in arguing with each others view but I can’t help it but to give up and let him have the day. After the lecture, he walked up to me and thanked me for saving his honor earlier. I smiled and that’s how we became friends. After few weeks he asked me out, I can’t help it but to say yes to him and I told him everything about my past then he assures me thar he will never brkng up my past.
Since I met him, all I experienced was joy. We got married after we both completed our NYSC then we were gifted by you of course.
This was all I experienced as a teenage, I was trapped for a very long time but I finally breakthrough. I want you to remember that not everyone can be so furtunate. And if you find yourself in a difficult situation never hesitate to raise your voice. I said this to my daughter as I end my story and we both said goodnight as she stand up to leave to her room.
Ogunsola Ayobami Samuel is a blogger, writer, poet, and teacher. He attended Baptist High school from 2010-2013 and graduated from Kinsey College of Education Ilorin 2018, still hoping to have his first degree in English.
He sees writing and teaching as the best channel to reach out to the world.
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